‘Quiet’ Book Review

Is it OK to be quiet in a world that values being visible, outgoing, and showing a powerful personality? One that is organised for people to live and work in groups from the moment they start education through their working lives, even extending into residential care? Being loud, communicative and confidently expressing your needs seems the aim in today’s society, regardless of whether you have something valuable to contribute. Preferring time to think and be quiet is less acceptable.

Cain distinguishes between the Cult of Character and the Cult of Personality, a shift in the different kinds of qualities that society has recognised over the last century. The traditional Cult of Character honours qualities such as citizenship, duty, honour, good deeds, morals and manners. By contrast the Cult of Personality is all about being fascinating, stunning, glowing, dominant and forceful. 

As someone who remembers the criticism of my quiet style at school , and ‘failing’ a graduate assessment centre for not contributing enough in a boisterous role play, I breathed a sigh of relief when reading Cain’s book for the first time several years ago.  Many people confuse my learned willingness to lead and engage in groups as extraversion. I love people; I’m often described as a ‘people person.’ Yet I also need to offset time in company with time alone to re-charge. My best creative work happens when I have time alone to ‘moodle’ and play with ideas that I’ve discussed with others. As I get older, I’m increasingly discerning about choosing the company I keep.

‘Quiet’ highlights the difference between those who love being in the spotlight all the time and others who are more comfortable when a spotlight is shone on aspects of what they do or say and researches how much of this difference relates to nature or nurture.  

At last, here is someone who honours the introverted personality, the person who likes to reflect and have time to consider their position before they go public. She deliberately celebrates the strength and power of introverts as she explores how those who are naturally quiet, serious and sensitive can get overlooked. Great inventors, artists and leaders. Introverts learn to adapt to societies demands on them in order to be listened to. Yet they find group activities can drain their energy and distract their thinking. 

This book explains a lot while inviting further questions. As a coach, I work with many leaders who need to communicate well and be innovative in new products and ways of working and was drawn to her ideas and the stories she shares.

Cain suggests that the fear of public speaking is exacerbated for introverts who can be highly susceptible to external distraction. When the introvert gets up to speak, he can’t get his thoughts in order easily as the external stimuli of the audience drains his energy. When the extravert gets up to speak, he makes sense of his ideas by speaking out loud and gains energy from the group. This adds insight into the question of why some people need to be very well prepared for public speaking and others like to wing it.  

She also talks about creativity being reduced in group settings. Back in the 1950s, Alex Osborn created the concept of brainstorming, yet research shows that many great ideas get shut down by the extraverts in the group dominating the process. Traditional brainstorming does not lead to releasing the best ideas. In a fascinating chapter entitled ‘When Collaboration kills Creativity’ she provides evidence to challenge the view that people who hope to be innovative should work in highly social workplaces telling the tale of Steve Wozniak’s early design work to create the first Apple computer. Woz’s advice to those who aspire to great creativity was: “Work alone. You’re going to be best able to design revolutionary products and features if you’re working on your own. Not on a committee. Not on a team.” 

If you’re interested in wanting to provide the environment where everyone can thrive, whether that’s in education, the workplace or family and relationships, this book has much to offer to get the best from everybody’s styles. It’s an intelligent, persuasive and warm read. Sit back, listen to her ideas and enjoy.

 

 

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‘Happy Money’ book review

Does having money make you happy? According to the old Beatles song, we know instinctively that ‘Money won’t buy you love.’ Yet who would honestly turn down a lottery win? Given that most of us need to earn a living, what can we do to change how happy we feel about money and improve the choices and trade-offs we make? As it promises in the title, “Happy Money” from researchers Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton explores the relationship between money and happiness with an easy to read work backed by serious research.  The message of the book is that money can make you happy once you understand how to spend smartly.

Happy Money  offers offers five key principles to your approach to money from choosing experiences over possessions to investing your money on others. The five principles can be used by companies who want happy employees and customers too.

The five principles are:

  1. Buy Experiences; spend your money on experiences you’ll remember rather than collecting objects and smart cars. You’ll remember the day out with friends much more than the new item of clothing.
  2. Make it a Treat; instead of splurging on an expensive super frappacino each day, make it an occasional treat to savour that special cup of coffee. We look forward to treats and remember them.
  3. Buy Time; before you spend, ask how a purchase will affect how you spend your time. ‘If I buy this, how will it affect how I spend my time next Tuesday?’
  4. Pay Now, Consume Later; we enjoy our purchases more when we anticipate them in the future, rather than getting the bill later after the event. So reverse the trend of consuming then paying to paying then consuming. When you buy tickets to an event or treat well in advance, the pleasure comes in the build up.
  5. Invest in Others. Spending on other people and sharing an experience with others make us happier than spending on ourselves.

Given that in my work, I meet so many people who feel ‘time poor’, I turned quickly the chapter on the third principle: ‘Buy Time. ’ While it’s theoretically possible to use money to buy time, the research demonstrates that people with more money do not spend their time in more enjoyable ways on a day-to-day basis. In fact, wealthier individuals spend more of their time on activities associated with relatively high levels of tension and stress, such as shopping, working and commuting.

We may be conditioned to think that ‘time is money’, especially those who are aware of their hourly or daily rate of pay.   Yet this mind set limits happiness. The research showed that transforming decisions about money into decisions about time has a surprising benefit. Rather than seeing time as a vehicle to get more money, they suggest viewing happier time as an end in itself. Our choices about how we spend our time are deeply connected to our sense of self. Choices about money can lead us to think in a cold, rational manner.  This cocktail of money and happiness is one that majority of us imbibe. Who can honestly say that they’ve never had some anxiety over money? Believed that life would be great with loads of money? Or felt the tension between spending time on what we want to do, compared with what we feel we ought to do?

Overall, Happy Money is light-hearted read offering key principles, backed up by extensive research to help you question and re-evaluate your spending habits and money mind set. For anyone who’s working and chasing the money, it provides guidance to increasing your contentment right here and now.  Spend your money wisely! 

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30 Minutes to Change Lives

Can you really change someone’s life in 30 minutes? I believe you can. And often in less time. A few words, an insightful comment, acknowledgement or question may be all it takes to effect positive change.

One proven way to change people’s lives is through good coaching. A focused, professional coaching conversation can be very short and very incisive. It can shift the conversation from the superficial transactional level – where people never mention what is really important – to a meaningful dialogue that transforms how someone thinks about a situation.

This year, I’ve begun running a series of workshops aimed at those who lead and manage other people to improve the quality of conversations they have with their colleagues and direct reports. It’s called Café Coaching Conversations and offers great tools and techniques that are easy to learn and apply immediately. It means that you can meet someone in a public place, like a coffee shop, and have a focused coaching conversation that really helps to solve problems and create new solutions. Best of all, you don’t need to come up with the answers. You learn how to let someone else find their best way forward.

If this sounds interesting, you may like to come along to the new series of workshops. Or have a chat with me about how to make a difference in 30 minutes.

 

 

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Seven Principles for Brilliant Women ( and Men too:)

I coach so many amazing women. Talented, focused and hardworking. (And plenty of men too!) People like you…

The thing is. They usually don’t notice how good they really are. ( I meet more humble women than men.) They highlight what they can’t do perfectly rather than what they do so well. Come on ladies, step up.  Why wait in the shadows helping others to shine when inside you are wondering why nobody is giving you the space you deserve?

Here are seven ways to take ownership of your shiny talents and use them to make a difference in the world.

  1. Pay attention to your own passion and energy. Only you can take ownership of your life, so don’t wait for others to set your direction and tell you what to do. Start by noticing what fires you up and gives you energy. Spend more time in this space and you’ll be unstoppable as you inspire other people with your enthusiasm.
  2. Appreciate yourself. Set your intent to validate and appreciate yourself and what you stand for. When others see how you value yourself, they’ll value you more and have the courage to be more like you.
  3. Develop a protective skin. Skin is the biggest organ in the body and has amazing properties to protect and heal.   Imagine that you can put an extra super-coating on your body as you step up and face the world. One that others can’t easily tear or damage, and which will repair itself if knocked. Can you think of anyone brilliant who never gets criticised? No, then decide you don’t have to please everyone, all of the time.
  4. Develop your sponsors. Everyone benefits from others who look out for them and filter opportunitities their way. I’ve noticed that while women are good at getting mentors, men are particularly better at getting sponsors. Make sure you cultivate relationships with those people who want the best for you, will extol your virtues rather than delight in your faults or make you feel scared.  Leave behind those who love to control or criticise and look for those who’ll stretch and support you to raise your game. 
  5. Quiet the voice on your shoulder that says: ‘Who are you to put your head above the parapet?’ It’s normal to have some noisy ‘chatter’ that gets in the way. Stop and listen to the infamous words of Marianne Williamson as you ask yourself: “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?” Actually, who are you not to be? . . . as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.’
  6. Replace humble with daring. So many women, in particular, play safe. They fear their own vulnerability. In order to harness your courage, you need to be-friend your vulnerability. Once you do, you’ll find your own natural and greater leadership. Dare to dream the impossible. If you reach for the stars, then you can always set your sights closer to earth.
  7. Let others be brilliant too. Be generous in your support of others. They’ll appreciate it and reciprocate. The world is big enough for everyone to be their best, so never try and keep others down through your own insecurities and comparisons. The best leaders let others fly.

Be bold. Have fun. Get on with it!

And if you need help on the way, I can offer loads of resources, books, coaching and workshops  to support you. Whatever your dream, just ask me for help.

And remember, share the principles with other brilliant women, and men too…

 

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Book Review: And the Next Question is…

Book review: And the Next Question is… by Rachel Alexander and Julia Russell, Published by MX Publishing

Think of the most important question you’ve been asked. Or an important question you’ve asked yourself. What do I want? How do I spread my time over all these commitments? What name should I give this baby? How do I get a job I love doing? What shall I do next? What’s the meaning of life? And so on…

We’re faced by big and small questions constantly as we make decisions to get us through the day.

Writers of non-fiction write the book they need to write in order to answer an important question in their own minds. In the process of their own exploration, they offer lessons to their readers too. Here the authors answer a difficult question facing anyone attempting to coach another person which is ‘Help! What’s the most powerful question I can ask this person right now?’

The book has been compiled as a result of many years’ coaching experience of finding appropriate questions to ask clients, and the authors come up trumps with more than three thousand suggestions. All the questions are grouped into relevant topics that come up in coaching such as overwhelm, motivation, decision-making, conflict and difficult conversations.

Although the book is essentially a tool for coaches, it will appeal to anyone interested in the subject including those who want to manage in a coaching style and those who’d like to adopt a coaching style in the way they communicate.

When I first picked it up, my instinct was that it was for new ‘rookie’ coaches. After all, asking powerful questions is a core competence for any professional coach. Yet, as those of us who’ve been coaching for many years know, it’s easy to get stuck in our ways. We have favourite questions and predictable ways of asking them. This is why I’m keeping the book on my desk and then opening it at random to challenge my own thinking habits. It’s a neat resource that earns its space and is definitely worth buying in hard copy as it will be so well-thumbed. Just like a good cook book, it offers inspiration and sustenance.

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Is your time drifting away or do you make the most of it?

With just 168 hours of time in your diary to spend each week, budgeting wisely requires logical thinking and decision-making so that you feel satisfied with your purchases. Practical planning keeps the mental energy flowing as you stay on track to concentrate on the most important things in your life.

Hanging in the window of my office is an ornamental starfish made of wood, with a rope of golden coins; a surprise gift from friends who came on a writers’ retreat that I led on a Greek island. It’s a gentle reminder that time is like these special coins, a resource to spend wisely. Each moment is precious; there is no re-living the past except in our memories and photographs; no reset button allowing you to turn the clock back to that younger you. Life is short. Once spent, you will not be able to re-capture exactly the same coins.

Like loose change abandoned on the floor from trouser pockets, time builds into bigger notes. Weeks, months, years and decades can pass until you wake up to your own life and wonder just how you have spent it. If we’re really to live the life we love, then it’s helpful to tune into our spending patterns, especially to choose purposefully about the tiny moments, because each drop counts.

The formula for the 168 hour spending pattern is simple: the implementation may be more challenging requiring conscious determination and support along the way.

Step 1 Set Your Priorities – know where you are going, your goals, dreams and what’s important to you.

Step 2 Formulate a Plan – with steps along the way and resources to help you.

Step 3 Take Action – take the first step and then the next one without getting side-tracked.

Step 4 Review – check the results you are getting, go back to the plan and adapt as necessary.

Exercise: How do you really spend your life?

Consider your life as a bank account.  Here’s how it works:

-  You begin with a set income of 168 hours in a week.

-  Indentify the regular payments you make, the standing orders and direct debits of time. i.e. how many hours do you give to work, your family, your friends, your hobbies, your sleep? Travelling to work, checking email, tweeting?

-  Make a note of how you are actually spending your time, the key things you are voting for.

-  Consider whether how you actually spend your time compares with your dreams and aspirations? Are you making conscious, deliberate choices based on your real priorities?

-  Decide which area to focus on to make time savings. (Television is a tremendous time-stealer.) Don’t choose to cut back on sleep. You need it!

Identify the first steps to move you along the way.

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Time to break some rules?

Most of what holds us back from being brave lies inside us – our thoughts and our learned behaviour rather than in the external world. We behave like animals that have learned to cope with captivity and then never question it.

I first heard the story of how the Rogue Monkey challenged the status quo in his cage told by NLP trainer, Robert Dilts.  It goes like this:

In an experiment in animal behaviour, half a dozen monkeys were put in a large cage.  In the centre of the cage, suspended from the roof was a bunch of ripe bananas.  Below the bananas was a set of steps from which the monkey could pluck the fruit. The steps were wired and connected to a powerful pressure hose.  When the steps were touched, jets of cold water sprayed the whole of the cage, drenching all the monkeys.  With speed, the monkeys learned that the steps and bananas were out of bounds, and acted collectively to prevent any individual monkey getting too close to them.

Once this pattern was established, a monkey was removed from the cage and replaced with a new one.  Naturally, the new monkey made straight for the steps.  Before he could get close, the rest of the group jump on him. Very soon, the monkey learned the ‘rules’ despite having never got wet.  In fact, when the next new monkey was introduced, it was one of the most ardent in policing the rules.

Over time, all the original monkeys were removed and replaced with new ones.  The group taught each new monkey that the steps were off limits.  Eventually there were six monkeys in the cage who had never got wet, but who conformed to the rules because ‘that’s how we’ve always done it.’  The water jets had been long switched off.

Finally, the researchers placed in the cage stronger monkey.  This monkey resists the efforts of the others, leaps up the steps and eats the bananas.  The others watch fearfully, but after a while all of them start to test the steps, and soon they have all changed their behavioural patterns.  (Original source: Robert Dilts. Re-told by Nick Owen in ‘More Magic of Metaphor and reproduced with permission.’)

It’s very sobering to stand by people who are frozen to the spot unable to move, scared by the rules, who feel they can’t take a step forward or be open to advice; people who’ve decided it’s impossible to change their situation in life. It’s also wonderful to see the effect of rogue monkey behaviour.

Too many unhappy people are living life in an artificial comfort zone, rather like driving a car with the handbrake on. It may be safe, but it takes far too much force and effort. When we question the ‘status quo’, we allow new things to happen and are able to break out of the cages we put ourselves in. When we give ourselves permission to really love every part of our lives, then life becomes much more fun.

Thought provokers

-  What dream or desire is calling you in your life right now that you are resisting?

-  Is there an area in your life where you are ‘playing small’?

-  Where is that growing edge, the place that stretches you?

-  Consider where you might be standing in your own way and applying the brakes too hard.

-  What will get better for you as you break the gridlock?

-  What risk are you willing to take today?

Want to find out more? Contact me directly with any questions.

If you’d like to read more about the key principles to live life, love work, you can buy my book on Amazon here.

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Are you ready to ask for help from your dream team?

Change is simpler when you get help.  One of those useful mottoes to put on your bathroom mirror is: ‘Do only the things that only you can do’ and find someone else who can help you with the rest. The most ‘successful’ people I’ve met in business all know how to ask for help. They find sponsors, mentors and great assistants.  The most content people I’ve met outside of work don’t try to do everything alone. They build a supportive network of friends and family. They recognise the synergy of a group effort.

The idea of a dream team pops up in the world of football where there are various games to build your own fantasy dream team of the top players. A winning sports team is made up of people who specialise in specific skills rather than lots of people who are adequate all-rounders – particularly for skills like goal scoring or tackling. Any team works best by building on the complementary talents of its members.

Top tip:

Surround yourself with people who believe in you, sponsor you, mentor and guide you. Find people who want only the best for you and will give their knowledge and support generously in a non-judgemental way; those who will communicate openly and honestly. You want the kind of people with the staying power to support you through the crisis times as well as fair weather. Also find people who are themselves team players, who listen before they act.

Exercise: Selecting your dream team

If you’re facing challenges or changes in any area of your life, now the time might be right to consider the people who can help you to tackle your own goals and in so doing enable you to create new possibilities for yourself. Draw up a list of your team candidates in each area.

Physical Energy

Who’s going to help you be the fittest, healthiest version of yourself? A personal trainer, exercise buddy, nutritionist or sports coach?

Mental Energy

Who’s going to help you to work with your skills and talents, motivate you to take time out for developing new hobbies and interests and delegate things outside your scope?

Emotional Energy

Who’s going to ensure you stay calm and focused when things get tough? Best friend, meditation teacher or counsellor?

Purposeful Energy

Who will enable you to live your core values and connect with your sense of purpose?

Once you have drawn up your list of candidates, sit with it awhile.  Find out how you feel about these people logically and intuitively before you decide who you will work closely with or share your aspirations.  A powerful guide or coach will impact on more than one aspect of your energy. Choose who you surround yourself with discernment rather than jumping in.

Want to find out more? Contact me directly with any questions.

If you’d like to read more about the key principles to live life, love work, you can buy my book on Amazon here.

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When Nietzche Wept by Irvin D. Yalom: Book Review

 Yalom has penned his fictional account of the relationship in Vienna between Friedrich Nietzsche, the German philosopher and the Austrian medic, Josef Breuer, one of the founding fathers of psychoanalysis and mentor to his younger colleague, Sigmund Freud. Vienna in the 19th century was a hotbed of discovery where intellectual men challenged each other’s ideas and seemed to enjoy delicious times in their favourite cafes devouring copious amounts of coffee and cake. (Life for the majority of women centred on looking after their men and children.)

Yalom admits that Nietzsche and Breuer never met and yet he has created an intriguing book, well researched and with compelling dialogue and storytelling. Like most fiction, it’s worth getting a ‘good run’ at this book to hold the story line and follow the conversation. Luckily a sunny Sunday led me to while away a whole day under a shady tree in the garden with the indulgence to fully immerse myself and devour the book in almost one sitting.

As a coach, I’m constantly interested in how to raise my game by enquiring into different fields of study: I also recognise how much I learn from my clients. Without that learning dynamic, the coaching would be draining. The same holds true for the characters here. From the outset, I found parallels between coaching and the way the renowned doctor, Breuer, approaches his patients ‘knowing it was impossible to have too much rapport’ and demonstrates the power of superb listening and questioning.

He allows ample time for Nietzsche to describe his sickness rather than rushing at a solution. What a contrast with today’s 7 minute-long consultations if you’re lucky with your GP. And we hear that he had ‘never encountered a patient who did not secretly enjoy a microscopic examination of his life…the joy of being observed ran so deep that Breuer believed the real pain of old age, bereavement, outliving one’s friends, was the absence of scrutiny – the horror of living an unobserved life.’

As readers, we are privileged eavesdroppers to pacy and challenging intellectual debate between the two great men. Both characters demonstrate their skill at asking powerful questions, some of which could come straight from a modern coaching conversation including:

  • ‘Suppose you could design the next phase of your life in any way you wish, what would you like to happen?’
  • ‘If you were not thinking these alien thoughts, what would you be thinking?’

Breuer encounters a great intellectual who forces him to be honest, direct and challenging, yet not in any way easy on nor sympathetic to his patient. Breuer has to tread cautiously to encourage Nietzsche to stick with the process rather than quit.  He offers solace to any practitioner whose clients do decide to give up without concluding the work: ‘They learn something from you, carry it in their heads until they are ready for more. Meanwhile, you have played the role they are ready for.’

How re-assuring to hear Nietzsche’s advice too that: ‘One must have chaos and frenzy within oneself to give birth to a dancing star.’ Certainly chaos and frenzy prevails between this pair both in their inner thinking and external speech and behaviour. Initially Nietzsche is the patient, yet the tables turn elegantly and it’s Breuer who is ultimately cured of his unhealthy obsession with his patient, Bertha Pappenheim, through his therapeutic conversations with this patient. At the same time, Nietzsche also gains great personal insights and undergoes personal change; and, as the title implies, finds his own tears flowing once he learns how to build a trusting relationship with his doctor.

And as I’d borrowed the book from a therapist friend, I captured quotes that stood out instead of underlining in the book as is my normal practice. Here are a few, and I make no apology if they are in random order, after all we learn that chaos is so valuable:

  • ‘Life is an examination with no correct answers.’
  • ‘The important issue here is not for me to tell you about my way, but to help you find your way…’
  • ‘Living safely is dangerous.’
  • ‘I need to be able to reveal everything about myself to another and to learn that I too am…simply human.’
  • ‘He who does not obey himself is ruled by others.’

A couple of times the book stopped me in my tracks. I was so amused to discover that Breuer can’t discuss his sex life with Freud as he feels it’s the one topic where he can’t be fully honest or detailed; the young Freud comes across as quite prudish compared to the popular understanding of Freud’s later absorption in the topic.

Later, when Breuer appears to have a reckless and drastic change in his life after a session with Nietzsche, the reader learns that he has been in a long, hypnotic trance where he can experience the change ‘as if’ it is happening for real. In this state he achieves the healing and freedom that he’s been searching for and wakes up to re-discover his loving relationship with his wife and mother of five children. How fortunate to have this happy ending.

Irvin D. Yalom is Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University.  Martin Seligman, positive psychologist and author of ‘Learned Optimism’ describes  Irvin Yalom as the most significant writer of psychological fiction in the world today. I shall certainly be looking to read his more recent novel: ‘The Spinoza Problem’ as well as further non-fiction works. I can highly recommend ‘Love’s Executioner’ and ‘The Gift of Therapy:’ both offer gripping, honest and insightful tales from therapy.

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How to ensure you have the energy to live life and love work

Do you have days when you can’t wait to jump out of bed in the morning, you feel alive and excited about what lays ahead; and others when you can’t quite summon up the energy to swing your toes onto the floor in the morning – when you’re yearning for a ‘duvet day?’

Experiencing variations in energy levels is natural. But, feeling persistently tired and worn down, or constantly hyped up, are signals that your energy levels are off-balance. To even out the peaks and troughs of exertion, aim to achieve a calm and relaxed baseline state in which the exertion of performing is balanced by the discipline of recovery.

Reaching for sweets to cheer us up when we’re worried has the opposite effect to the one intended because blood sugar levels become unstable and the result is a feeling of anxiety, exhaustion and weight gain.

When the brain senses that blood sugar is low, adrenalin is poured into the system, raising blood sugar levels once more, but heightening fear. This triggers the classic fight/flight reaction, causing the heart to palpitate, the stomach to churn and blood vessels to dilate. Simple adjustments in diet and lifestyle will switch off the impulse to run on adrenalin. This means becoming clever at tuning into our physical body with practices like meditation and yoga which offer ways to recognise what it’s like to be truly calm, centred and healthy.

When people are engaged in work that doesn’t fit with their strengths, or lack sufficient support to do their jobs, they can become physically ill. In order to thrive in any organisation it is necessary to understand the company culture.  Then you can decide whether it’s a good fit for your identity and whether it enables you to work at your best. If you can’t make it work smoothly, then you are in the wrong place. To prevent getting physically ill, you will need either to change your approach or shift to another organisation.

Top tip #1

Habits develop over the months and years. Buy yourself a notebook and simply write down everything you eat and drink and all the exercise you do – every day. The discipline of measuring draws your attention to what is happening. This is the first step in making adjustments.

Top tip #2

Follow this five point plan to help you stay healthy.

1. Plan to exercise – At the start of each week, book the 30-minute to one hour spaces when you will be exercising.

2. Never book your diary back to back – Make space to slow down, reflect and attend to your own needs.

3. Work when you’re at work. Be home when you’re at home – Set clear boundaries, even though there will be long hours at times.

4. Be comfortable with leaving the office while others are still working – Be confident saying ‘I’m going now’.

5. Live for today – Enjoy every minute and encourage your own spontaneity.

Interested in finding out more? Contact me directly with any questions. If you’re interested in personal coaching or finding out more about my workshops click here to email me.

If you’d like to read more about the key principles to live life, love work, you can buy my book on Amazon here.

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